The art of “Letting Go”
The art of letting go is the practice of detachment to things or outcomes allowing you to surrender, move forward, and find peace. Some stories to illustrate -
Year 2013 May - As I was about to enter my home after my morning walk, the man who washes my car every day came running towards me. He urged me to come and see something. Curious and slightly alarmed, I followed him, only to be horrified at the sight before me. My new sedan had several deep, deliberate scratches on the left side door and the boot. The damage was severe, evidently caused by a sharp instrument, and it was clear this was no accident.
It felt like a sheer act of violence, reflective of the unrest that often permeates our modern world. Perhaps it was done by someone in deep distress or overwhelming anger, crying out for psychological or emotional help.
Reflecting on where I had parked the car the previous evening, I recalled visiting three places, one of which was a hotel where I had handed it over for valet parking. The shock of seeing those intentionally inflicted scratches hit me hard, but surprisingly, the feeling lasted no more than two minutes. I quickly regained my composure.
The car wash man looked at me, eagerly anticipating my reaction. I said, "It's alright. These things happen." I then walked away, leaving him stunned. Despite the initial wave of disappointment, I felt pleased with my ability to remain detached. Two powerful stories I had read earlier helped me "let go."
The first story is about Sir Isaac Newton, the renowned scientist. Newton had a beloved pet dog named Diamond. One day, Diamond accidentally knocked over a candle on Newton's desk, starting a fire that destroyed years of invaluable research.
With no means of saving his data, Newton could have easily succumbed to anger or despair. Instead, he calmly said, "O Diamond, Diamond, thou little knowest the damage thou hast done." He "let go" of the loss and started his work all over again.
The second story is about a general in ancient China who was passionate about collecting antiques. One day, while examining an exquisite, expensive vase, it slipped from his hands. In a desperate attempt, he managed to catch it just inches from the floor.
His heart pounded wildly. At that moment, he realized that he had faced numerous life-threatening battles without fear, yet the fear of losing a vase caused him tremendous anxiety. Recognizing his attachment, he calmly stood up, relaxed his hands, and let the vase fall. It shattered into pieces.
The essence of true Faith and Spiritual Awakening lies in three simple words: "Let it go." We often hold on to our desires, possessions, beliefs, fears, grievances, and insecurities.
Understanding the root cause of this attachment helps us release negative emotions, bringing peace. "Letting go" is easier said than done, but with practice, if practiced, know that it is one of the most important virtues one could have ever acquired.